“Being totally honest with oneself is a good exercise.” Sigmund Freud
“I am in charge of my destiny. I am the builder of my life.” S. Roman & D. Packer
Tip 47: FORGIVE YOURSELF
Most people are harder on themselves than they would be on anyone else. If you hold feelings of shame, guilt, inadequacy, self-loathing, etc., it robs you of your power and keeps you wounded. If you continue to hurt yourself – it will impede your ability to enjoy life fully. Everything that you have ever done has served a purpose – if you learn and grow from these experiences – then they become strength and give you wisdom and power. If you use them as weapons against yourself, you will kill your spirit, break your own heart, and stop yourself from attracting what you desire. Accept yourself, forgive yourself, and love yourself, as only you can.
The angels describe love in terms of an electrical circuitry that travels within our being from ancient times. Dr. Doreen Virtue channeled this message from the angels regarding forgiveness in her book ANGEL THERAPY. Breathe deeply as you read the message and take it into your heart.
“Let us fill you in a bit, so you will see the topic of ‘forgiveness’ from our vantage point. Maybe then you will understand our message at a deeper level than before. You say you forgive, and yet still within you a little nick of anger remains within your circuitry. It is visible and palpable to even the naked eye who wishes to see the landscape of love.
Even now, you can close your eyes and with a short breath and a prayer, behold your inner landscape of circuitry. Do you see the navigation upon which love carries its heartfelt message? These circuits are more real than you may ever imagine, and they are constantly working to carry away the realm of errors.
All that error ‘is’ is a lack of love in consciousness. Yet, even this is impossible, as we believe you will readily see. For where could love not exist, except in your imagination? And where your consciousness resides, there you are as well. You are a thought, and a great and powerful thought at that. Your mighty decision to exist in imagination, where spaces without love could be, is as a child who designs a superior world to the one of his own. And is the fantasy superior to that which is real? Again, only your decisions contain the answer to this important question. And how you answer yourself determines the direction you next must take.
For if there is a fear of turning away from the imagination and returning to the real world of love, light, and creation then you will hide endlessly under the seeming shelter of your imaginings. Yet, if you were to imagine an even better hiding place than this, would you come out and check to see if it is so? The shining world existing eternally beside your imaginary world of fear and danger, awaits you patiently. Your invitation stands carved and glistening, engraved with the love that beckons you to come.
Everything you’ve ever wanted is here, loving child! It is a place within and without, simultaneous in all dimensions. And we will lead you to this reality, if you will but show us the slightest interest in establishing a new residence for yourself.” (pages 77-78)
TIP 48: CHOICE
Let go of fear of manifesting, fear of power and fear of responsibility. You have the power of choice and with choice comes responsibility. You are responsible for your choices, actions, reactions and consequences. Responsibility is not blame. Responsibility is power. Fear of your own power gives power away, leaving you feeling helpless and powerless. You are in the driver’s seat of your life, you are not a passenger – you choose the direction of your life. The future is not unknown when you choose it. If you don’t like what you have manifested, you have the power to choose again – you are never stuck, but sometimes you must choose to change perspective.
As you are working with the Law of Attraction and practicing manifesting you are learning a great deal about yourself and about the many subtleties of working consciously with energy. Remember to always evaluate yourself not by how quickly you manifest but rather by how satisfied you are by what you attract.
Focus on what you wish to create in your life, not on what you lack. When you focus on what you do not have, this is the opposite of appreciation and is a process of devaluing – which is an attitude of desperation that is poisonous to your life force. It is like kryptonite is to superman! The fact is that focusing on lack announces to the Universe that you do not value or appreciate your life NOW (the point of attraction) but it also attracts more lack. (Please re-read my blog called “Letting Go of Lack,” May 15, 2014)
We can change many situations that we do not like by changing something within ourselves. The ways people treat us and respond to our ideas and suggestions is determined by our attitudes, our energy, and our love. Once we learn to nurture and appreciate ourselves we find that others appreciate us also. Therefore before you make a major change in your life, first look at what you do not like about your situation and ask yourself if what you are currently experiencing is a reflection of your own lack of self-appreciation and self-love? Please write about this in your journal. However, if you find that, for example, the problems at the office are truly beyond your capacity to solve – and you go to work every day thinking how much you dislike your job, then you are not listening to your inner guidance that there is something better waiting for you! As Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer tell us, “Many people stay in jobs long after their positions stop providing them with aliveness and growth, thinking that there is nothing better for them.” (CREATING MONEY: ATTRACTING ABUNDANCE)
When we support our own aliveness and growth – we also support the aliveness and growth of others. Therefore give yourself permission to be who-you-really-are and to do what you love and want to do. When you do this – making a commitment to your aliveness and growth – you may very well encounter varying levels of resistance in varying forms as it is frequently threatening to people close to you when you choose to grow and/or change. They fear that they will lose your love. Rather than feeling threatened by their resistance to your changes – send them light and love and compassion. Remind yourself that opposition can sometimes be a gift because when we overcome the resistance of others we usually strengthen our own commitment and resolve to stay on our path developing more courage and confidence along the way. You are the only person who can make the choices regarding your own path. If you go against your messages from your Higher Self, your Angels and guides, doing things not in alignment with who you are and what you love to do in order to please people such as parents, spouses, friends, co-workers or anyone else – chances are high that you will lose your sense of aliveness and joy. Ask yourself what choices feel right, honour your integrity and bring you joy. Asking these questions of every choice helps you to follow your heart and puts you on the road to success.
Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer, both spiritual teachers with very wise spirit guides, inform us that there are no excuses for not acting upon our dreams. “If you keep telling yourself why you can’t have what you want, you won’t have it. Begin to tell yourself why you can have what you want.” We have all used and/or heard every excuse in the world as to why we cannot make our dreams a reality! What are your excuses? Please write about them in your journal and if you have no excuses – then write about that. I remember in the ‘old days’ a letter that a woman wrote to Dear Abby (an advice column) telling Abby that she had a dream of becoming a medical doctor but that she was now in her mid-30s and it would be 7 years of training if she began now and how old she would be by the time she became a doctor. Dear Abby replied, “How old will you be in 7 years if you do not become a doctor?” It is never too late to be who you might have been.
Evaluate every option by looking forward and picking the choice that is best for your energy and your life. We all face energetic choices in every moment. No matter what the choice is. We choose what to drink, eat, think, believe, feel and perceive on a daily basis. Many of us tend to forget that it is these on-going ‘seemingly small’ decisions that combine to make up our consciousness and our life force. Therefore, consider both the ‘real’ and ‘energetic’ results of all the choices that come to you. Bring your consciousness to each choice and you begin to feel your power!
Choose thoughts that feel good. “As you deliberately offer your thoughts that feel good, you allow your connection to your Inner Being, to who-you-really-are. When you are connected to who-you-really-are, anyone you hold as your object of attention benefits… in time you will become so adept at deliberately offering your thoughts, that you will predominantly be in the state of positive attraction. And then (really only then) will you be comfortable in letting others create as they choose. When you understand that unwanted things cannot assert themselves into your experience, but that everything is invited to you by you through your thought, you never again feel threatened by what others may be choosing to live, even if they are very close by – for they cannot be a part of your experience.” (THE LAW OF ATTRACTION, channeled from Abraham, written by Esther & Jerry Hicks)
We lightworkers keep learning and growing. We keep moving forward, making choices based on who we are NOW – not on who we used to be. Choices based on who we are becoming rather than who we were yesterday. Let us let Carl Jung help us to jettison our past as we move forward.
“Thoroughly unprepared we take the step into the afternoon of life; worse still, we take this step with the false assumption that our truths and ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the programme of life’s morning; for what was great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening have become a lie.” (STAGES OF LIFE)
God’s/Source’s Love is the most powerful force in the Universe. Channel love to yourself and others. This is one of the best ways to heal your own energetic frequency.
Dear readers, remember that there comes a time in your transformation process when the life that you are living outgrows its form. This may involve a descent into darkness before you emerge from the void. Always be cognizant, remind yourself, that this is a part of the perpetual cycle of renewal. Just like in nature our progress consists of 5 aspects: death, decay, fertilization, gestation, rebirth. It is possible that, just as our planet is undergoing a complete transformation, so too may you! Do not mistake this ‘death’ for the death of your physical vehicle. And also remember that self-change is never coerced. We are always free to resist (due to the Law of Free Will). I would counsel you to remain mindful that the ‘new’ life is always greater than the ‘old’. Often, opportunity, as Ralph Blum reminds us, “comes disguised as a loss.” It can include something or someone with whom you have an intense emotional bond, and through which you are living a part of your life, a part that must now be retrieved so you can live it for yourself. In some way, that bond is being severed, a relationship radically changed, a way of life coming to an end. Seek among the ashes and discover a new perspective and new strength.” (THE BOOK OF RUNES)
All is in Divine Order.
Love & Light, Monica