Good-Bye & Hello
Is a chapter of your life closing? I feel that it must be because the faeries asked me today to write about saying good-bye to the old and hello to the new. Take my hand today as it is energetically reaching out to you and also take a few deep breaths as you accept my invitation to walk beside me for awhile as I talk a little about the journey of transformation that we are on together.
Have you been feeling a sense of loss lately and some worry about your future? If so, this is normal. We are in a period of growth and rapid change as we and our planet ascend into a Higher Frequency. There is a great deal of help available if you are struggling. Earthly help and otherwise. Do not be afraid or shy to ask for this help. It is all around you. Re-birthing ourselves can be a challenging process for many of us. It seems to be human nature to wish to cling to the old – to the known. Old jobs, old relationships, old locations, old patterns, beliefs, attitudes and ways of being. And, also, many of us are valiantly handling multiple responsibilities as we move through this process of good-bye and hello. I am not going to pretend that it is easy, because for me and for many others I have talked to it can be painful sometimes. Just like childbirth, the contractions can be intense as you move further and further down the birth canal. However, once the baby arrives, it has all been absolutely worth it!
I have not found the process to be linear. Sometimes I take two steps forward and one step back. My North American mind will then tell me that I am not progressing. Yet, this is never the case. Changes are happening on all levels including – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels. Lessons are always learned in these seemingly-backward movements. And, sometimes there is a feeling of ‘stuckness’ that is frustrating. One of my cherished mentors told me, many years ago , laughingly, ” Monica, there is not much flying in the cocoon!”.
There are pauses in this process. Sometimes this pause is for you so that you can take a breather and integrate your new awareness. Sometimes this pause may serve someone around you that is dear to you – giving them the opportunity to digest and honour your changes before you change yet again. It is always in Divine Order. Remembering to take care of yourself as you re-birth is very important. You are changing and therefore the way that you care for yourself may need to change also. Most of us look at all aspects of our lives to see if our choices are self-honouring and life-affirming. Rest, meditation, good nutrition, exercise and plenty of fresh air and fresh water become foundational elements in our ‘new’ way of living and we are grateful if we live in an area where we have access to clean water and air and un-polluted food. I highly recommend Cheryl Richardson’s book THE ART OF EXTREME SELF-CARE if you are not sure where to begin to truly look after yourself.
It is important to be kind and gentle with yourself and to treat yourself exactly the way that you treat your best friends – with respect and unconditional love. Sometimes we can have periods where we feel quite fragile as we navigate our path. Reach out to others when you need to and do not take it personally if not everyone responds positively. They too may have fears around changing. Seek those who understand and also professionals if you feel that you need them. If you require but cannot afford professional services – do some investigating to find health professionals and alternative/complimentary practitioners who have a sliding scale of payment or who trade services or accept donations. Know that your angels and guides never leave your side, so talk to them and ask for what you want and need and then allow yourself some delicious solitude, preferably in nature, so that you can truly listen as the universe responds to you. “Ask and ye shall receive.” Be open to the universe meeting your needs in ways you have never entertained as possible.
Try to learn how to go with the flow if you are not already practicing this art. The art of surrender eases this journey considerably. “What we resist, persists.” Surrendering your attachment to the outcome of your journey leads to JOY within the process. Surrendering a life spent in future-tense allows for relief from a sense of anxiety and urgency regarding your goals and ushers in a feeling of sublime enjoyment of the journey itself. As Sandra Ann Taylor says, “the law of paradoxical intent says that the more desperate you are to achieve a certain goal, the more your energy will push it away, creating the paradox (or opposite) of your intention.”
Taking baby steps forward works for most of us. Dipping our toes into the shallow end of the pool and paddling for awhile gives us the confidence to dive into the deep end when we feel courageous, safe and ready. There is no hurry, no need to push, strive or strain. Allow your ‘good’ to come graciously into your life and be grateful for the ‘good’ that is already here. Bring your focus to the present moment and create your future from there. If you feel empty, then there is space for what you are now attracting into your life. Focus on JOY and lightening-up and this will take you where you wish to go. Joy is such an attractive energy.
In my practice, all my current clients are going through a process of transformation. Often this is initiated by a loss of some kind: divorce, death of a family member or friend or animal companion, moving homes, career changes or job loss etc. However, change is not always brought about by loss and not always brought about through trials and suffering. As we evolve toward a greater consciousness on our planet we are choosing to release old beliefs and unhealthy patterns. The New Age has dawned. Old systems are breaking down and the Light is streaming in giving us all the opportunity to create anew. On both a personal and global level. The angels, ascended masters and infinite numbers of Light Beings are helping us – we are not alone.
Allow yourself the gift of changing as the unique person that you truly are. Be yourself at all times. There is no one-size-fits-all way to do this!
Much Love, Monica
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Christine November 22, 2013 at 1:36 pm
How I wish MANY MANY people will read this . This obviously resonated so much with me, and even having a trusted friend to talk to about how you feel going through any transition, will help. Friends can be your Doula (not sure of spelling) in this difficult part of Birthing. I am forever grateful to have mine, always there .
Thank you Monica.
Hayley November 28, 2013 at 2:21 pm
Thanks! Your blogs are always insightful and well-written!!