“Three things in human life are important.  The first is to be kind.  The second is to be kind.  And the third is to be kind.”    Henry James

“With self-discipline most anything is possible.”    Theodore Roosevelt


Growth is about expansion; control is contracting as it attempts to keep everything small and seemingly “manageable.”  Expand and be open to what you are willing to receive and experience – expand your thoughts, expand your ideas, expand your efforts, expand your ideals, and expand and express your energy and your light for all of the world to see.


Control is an illusion.  We really don’t have control over anything.  As my psychic mentor, the Amazing Grace, taught me long ago, “seeking to control life is like driving around with the emergency brake on – it is a real drag that simply slows you down and stops the flow.”  You have the power of choice, and you can choose to work with the Universe to create and attract what you desire, rather than trying to control and limit the Universe, which only exhausts you and limits your ability to create and manifest.

Relinquish control and you begin to expand your horizons.  In order to relinquish control you need to be kind to yourself.  When you are kind to yourself – you are kind to others.  You let go of the reins or you bring your paddles out of the water into the canoe and you trust the Universe (Divine Order) to take you into the flow of pure potentiality and Love.

It takes self-discipline to be kind.  Especially when going through the periods of darkness and hardships that are part of the human condition.  We have all endured hardships in our lives.  Sometimes we have done this gracefully with dignity and awareness and other times we have done this awkwardly; however, our experiences have influenced the kind of character and personality we currently possess.  The path that we took has ultimately been influenced by the choices we have made in response to our experiences.  Our responses and our new choices can cause us to become hard and bitter or they can lead to us becoming softer as they ‘break us open’ into a greater field of awareness.  Enlightenment.

Our struggles allow us to dis-cover resources at the depth of our inner being.  Sometimes resources that we had no idea we even possessed.  When we relinquish control we ‘let go’ and surrender to ‘what is’ and let the current bring us into flow with the Flow.  When we are in the Flow, we are not interested in judging and controlling others because our energy and our inclination is to expand our vision of ourselves and our universe.  Our inclination is to move out of our self-imposed prisons of darkness and accept the unconditional Love of the Creator.

Kindness expands us.  The kinder we are to ourselves and others the more clearly we see and the greater our faith becomes in Life’s unfoldment and our own purpose and destiny within Divine Order.  We realize we are not the center of the Universe – we are the Universe, as it is within and without us.  Everything flows through us when we open rather than contract.  If you are allowing yourself and your heart to be ‘broken open’ rather than ‘sealed off ‘ not only are you less likely to have a heart attack (an attempt to open your heart) but you are more likely to open yourself  and your heart to the degree where the only response that occurs to you naturally is kindness.  Maybe kindness and enlightenment are one and the same?

Love & Light,    Monica

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  1. Gillian February 4, 2016 at 11:36 am Reply

    I’m paraphrasing here, but I recall that at some point in an interview the Dalai Lama said, “My religion is kindness.” Good blog.

  2. Hayley February 26, 2016 at 10:54 am Reply

    Thanks for a great blog on a too often ignored subject! In a serendipitous twist, an acquaintance of mine just changed their signature block to the quote “In a world where you can be anything, be kind”.

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