“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”   A Course in Miracles

“When you stop waiting until you lose ten pounds, you finish your degree, you find a new job, you get married or divorced, the kids leave home, you win the lottery, you retire, or you achieve self-confidence and self-esteem, then you can finally start to live a life that is truly fulfilling and authentic.”   Denise Linn

“Whether you’re ninety or nineteen, there’s not a moment to waste.”   Judith Orloff, M.D.


Beyond your garden the Universe is willing to fill your life with beauty and joy. The choice to stay in the seeming security of your own garden may be motivated by habit or a fear of the unknown or by both. Often when my clients come to me and the Angels they are as yet unaware that the key to the locked gate of their garden is actually in their back pocket waiting to be dis-covered! I work with the Angels to help my clients recognize that with a shift in their focus and a widening of their spiritual perspective they can gain the world just outside their gate. It beckons.

Even though our own little garden might be pleasant enough, most of us are ready now for expansion. Some of us may feel stuck or all tied up. That is why during my Angel sessions with my clients I am frequently guided to offer them etheric cord cutting with Archangel Michael. After this Angel treatment the majority of my clients feel lighter immediately, their posture changes and the light in their eyes begins to sparkle. Although it is sometimes our own ‘stuff ‘ that is tying us up it can also be a major drama going on around us that is draining our energy and preventing us from moving forward – restricting our own sense of our personal freedom.

All of us must at various times during our lives look at the ways that we can be our own jailor. Are you tying yourself up in some emotional angst or continuing a negative habit that you refuse to tackle? If so, that key to the gate will remain undiscovered and unused in your back pocket. It is time to cut the ties that bind you  and to make some serious changes so you need no longer live in a self-imposed jail.

I find with many of my clients that worthiness is an issue. They refuse to let themselves ‘receive’ their manifestations because they do not feel worthy of them due to something in their past or a past life that is holding them back. They self-sabotage when an opportunity arises that might beckon beyond the gate. Once my client, with the help of myself and the Angels, becomes aware of this sense of unworthiness then we can work with it and heal it.

Sometimes a client dreams of change yet just feels so exhausted and drained from the energy vampires in her life that she feels she does not have the energy to change. There are so many kinds of energy vampires and it really does behoove you to become educated regarding the various types and also to ask yourself if you too might be one of them? Energy vampires hand over their power to others and therefore tend to become dependent, needy and often infantilized.

Many of us lightworkers are what Energy Psychiatrist Dr. Judith Orloff calls “fixer-uppers.” (POSITIVE ENERGY)  If we are a “fixer” then we will always have our energy drained. Those of us who want to ‘fix’ are often motivated by guilt, a desire to control, or an inability to say “no.” These of us often had needy parents and we were their caretakers.

Judith says, “Over the years, I’ve watched bright, sensitive patients get enticed by a fixer-upper’s “potential.” I know they are on shaky ground when they excitedly emote, “he has so much going for him. I just have to bring it out!” Sometimes another person can’t or won’t respond. Try not to take this personally. Try to just accept what is.

No matter what type of a ‘fixer’ you are you are genuinely looking for a loving bond; however, you are not accepting people as they are. Judith says your pipe dream is, “If I help ____________ change, our relationship will be happy. The outcome of that saga? Years go by. He doesn’t budge. You’re left tired and brokenhearted.”

If you find that these energy vampires are evoking strong judgmental reactions from you then chances are high that they are mirroring aspects of your own personality you don’t like or don’t understand. We always look at our own shadows and master our own energy rather than trying to change others because trying to change others ties us up! The qualities we dislike in others are disowned parts of our own shadow.

One of the most important ways to change our life is with action. We often delay or avoid action due to fear – fear of success, fear of failure, or even deeply subconscious fears. Tapping into our spiritual light involves facing our darkness in order that anger and irritation can come up. This is positive because emotions rise to the surface to be released. Purification. Anger turned inward is depression.

Stepping up to trust and faith requires commitment and helps us to simultaneously step into an expanded energy within ourselves. We activate the fire/passion of our creativity and intuition. Meditate. Change up routines and habits. Pray. Listen to any inner voices urging you to branch out in new directions. Take risks. Face your ‘shadow’ self rather than projecting it onto others. Examine all your fears. Access your spiritual allies including your Angels. Play!

Dis-covering your authentic self means being willing to step into the unknown. It requires the willingness to do things in a different way. A lot of us fall into old habits and patterns that are often a result of attempting to protect and defend ourselves from being hurt &/or humiliated  or failing. However, remember the saying, “if you do what you’ve always done, you will get what you’ve always gotten.”

Affirm multiple times daily, “I am willing to learn new things. I am open to wonderful new experiences and adventures. I love myself.”

Today is the day to step out of the garden (your comfort zone). Denise Linn (SOUL COACHING) tells of remarkable research in the Netherlands in which cancer patients were asked to completely change their routines, hairstyles, clothing style, and so on – all of which deeply shifted the way they saw themselves. Significantly, there were much higher levels of spontaneous remissions in this group than in the test group. The theory is that their outer changes affected their inner selves.

Surprise yourself! If you are a woman change your hair, makeup or clothing style and if you are a man change things up a bit as to your clothes and grooming.  Why not follow Pierre Trudeau’s style and buy a cape! or a jaunty beret? Do something, anything, that is out of character for you.

Be honest with yourself. Journal. Begin to take 100% responsibility for everything in your life and every part of your life and your own well-being. Then, reach into your back pocket for the key and open the gate.

Dance into the Light.

Angel Blessings,   Monica    www.monicahemstock.ca


Join the discussion 2 comments

  1. Gillian November 23, 2017 at 11:57 am Reply

    Why do you stay in prison
    when the door is so wide open?
    – Rumi

  2. hayley November 23, 2017 at 4:05 pm Reply

    Thanks for the great blog! 🙂

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